How are you feeling? A list to check up and check in:
1. No, but really. Are you being honest with yourself? Whatever is showing up is there for a reason. Are you thinking about the holidays and how they might be different this year? Are you noticing a shift in your productivity at work? Are old memories showing up? Do you feel uncertain about something in the future? Can you do one thing for me? To your best ability, can you breathe in through your nose? Good. Can you breathe out through your mouth?
P-A-U-S-E... (keep breathing, however it's accessible)
BREATHE IN & BREATHE OUT
BREATHE IN & BREATHE OUT
2. Has anything shifted? It's okay either way. No one has all the answers about what we're supposed to be feeling. We all experience the world from our viewpoint. So much goes into it. Our race, where we live, our incomes, our physical abilities, our mental and emotional states of being, memories of trauma, who we live with, what we were taught, what was normalized and what was not, and the list goes on. We compare notes as peers. No one is above you. No one is below you. Someone might have advice that works, and you might receive something that doesn't. If you're intrigued, follow that path. Remember to breathe along the way. You might have advice for someone that they use and something that doesn't work. We can be upset by rejection or not knowing where we fit.
3. Don't take this time in your life lightly. As my birthday nears (that's right, I'm a Sagittarius), I see so much hope and possibility as autumn transitions to winter. I don't know if it's because of my birthday, or if it truly is the nature of the season. Whatever it is, I believe we each have the capacity to create a place to be who we want to be, perhaps for others, but mostly for ourselves. Let's not aim to be the envy of all. We live moment to moment in mostly imperfect ways. There are impurities. We learn the most about ourselves when we admit what we don't know and when we ask ourselves to be as honest as possible as we figure it all out.
4. Before I go, there's one more thing. We might not question why we celebrate the holidays we celebrate and only see these times of year as a way to spend time with loved ones, but each of us are being challenged. Yes, because of the pandemic, but also because of the social injustices for Black people, brown people, indigenous people, and other people of color. Thanksgiving is muddled and always has been. Learn the truth about Thanksgiving from Cheyenne Leskanic. Please note, learning the true history of this "holiday", the things we're not taught in school, is of vital importance. I reside on the land of the Wazhazhe or "The People of the Middle Waters" where I am in western Pennsylvania. This will always be their land and I will always be a visitor here. Here's a photo of my beautiful back yard.